Monday, October 10, 2011

KICK START MONDAY: When life wants to be a tease

This morning I woke up ready to totally kick ass. I had it all planned. I'd spend an hour with my son, get breakfast ready, clear up the kitchen, then settle to two full hours of writing without interruption. Boy, was I off track! As I write this in the late morning, I've managed the breakfast and the hour with my son. I also prepared a lentil and vegetable soup for lunch. But the writing? Nada!

Life happens often to me - in fact, it happens every day. Lol. There have been times I was so frustrated that even when some time did clear up for writing, I'd just throw in the towel and not do anything. Then, I'd add to the stress just by doing that - because all I've done is let myself down. But then I realized that it's not about the planning, or making it all work perfectly. It's really about making the most of those minutes (sometimes this is all we have :)) that we have available to do the things we want. So I started to make an effort. I'm not saying I get it right all the time - but I'm learning to. I see others who are just as busy or busier than I and they make it work. So why can't I? Of course I can, as long as what I do works for me.

Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else. ~ Judy Garland

There are countless books about time management, that aim to teach one how to get things done, avoid stress and never miss a step. I'm sure these books are very useful. I've read a couple myself. What I learned is that everyone has their own routine and their own way of accomplishing things... and sometimes it may seem like what others do and the way they do it works better than whatever we're doing. However, the honest truth is that only we know how to make our lives work because we can't live someone else's life.

Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation. ~ Oscar Wilde, De Profundis, 1905

The most important thing in all the chaos is that we don't make excuses for ourselves. If we have a goal, we must attempt to reach it, even if we can only take a half-step at a time; otherwise we're only in love with an idea, not with the process.

You can't say, I won't write today because that excuse will extend into several days, then several months, then… you are not a writer anymore, just someone who dreams about being a writer. ~ Dorothy C. Fontana

This is so true of anything we do. It's not easy sometimes to stick through something, but the feeling you get after doing that... priceless!

So as soon as I post this I'm rolling up my sleeves and squeezing in some writing - even if it's only 30 mins of it! It's still worth it.

How do you make it work?

Have a Happy Monday and until next time, live well and love deeply!

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~ Angela ~
No Rules. No Formulas. Just Love.

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Rae Lori said...

Well said, girlie!

Agh it's so hard. Sometimes it feels like a day last for an hour or two. So by the time I get my walking around and enjoying the day time, it's almost bed time! :-)

I'm beginning to get back on schedule. I allow myself some time to just relax, grab some food (need the writing fuel), grab some like-minded movies or music to get me in the mood and then I brainstorm in my head before diving in. I usually have the scenes swimming around in my head so I can put pen to paper. Then it's rinse and repeat for the next day. I could sure use some of those time management books though! I'll definitely check them out. :-D

Zee Monodee said...

I totally know what you mean! Some days I jump into my chair ready to roll, some days I'm shaking all over with nerves and would rather tape my fingers together than attempt to touch a key on the keyboard!

But I've found the routine that works for me - my only requirement being that I am not interrupted. Preferable when kids are not home, but I'll have to make do as the summer break is coming.

You're right - you do what and as you have to do, full stop. What works for me, works for me, and I can't foist it on you coz your life is not mine and vice versa.

Hang on in there though - there's definitely light at the end of the tunnel :) XOXO

Cate Masters said...

love this post. I am having the same problem and my post today is very similar, lol

Angela Guillaume said...

Rae, it is not easy, but it seems you are finding a routine that works for you - that's the best you can do! It's all good as long as you're trying every day. Keep it up! xoxoxoxo

Angela Guillaume said...

Zee, you may not know, but you helped me a lot just telling me about your routine. I decided that if you can do it with all the things you have going on - a hubby and two growing boys, a house to clean, etc. - so can I. I just had to find the right routine for me. I'm still working on it, but I'm getting there! Thanks, my dear, for inspiring me x

Angela Guillaume said...

Cate - thanks for popping by! I just went by your blog... and I totally understand everything you say!